I would like to think I am a kind of person who is wise enough to understand the importance of traditional weaning at the same time I am not close minded enough to ignore latest researches and studies when it comes to baby and postpartum self care. Postnatal or postpartum care is as crucial or rather more important than pre natal care. It doesn’t matter what kind of birth method you chose. If it was a vaginal birth or a c-section. What matters is your body was busy creating a life for nine month. For nine months, your body has seen physical changes like never before. Your mind changes. Your whole physical being is transformed. And if you think just by delivering baby everything is done and you can bounce back to your pre pregnancy self in a jiffy then you are gravely mistaken. Under no circumstances ignore the importance of post natal self care. it is going to have a life long impact on you and your baby.
Especially, if you are a new mommy everything superlatively overwhelming. You are dealing with too many things at the same time. Just imagine you have vaginal stitches and just in three days you will be expected to sit crossed legs and feed your baby’s very two hour. I can go on writing and emphasizing about how child birth has affected your body physically but more important question at hand is how to take care of yourself post natal? I can’t pen down my whole experience in one blog. So, this is part one, where I know you are a new mom and you want to raise the baby yourself, but just for first 40 days let it go and let your support people take care of you.
Group of support people:
Our lives are incomplete without core group of people. People who make life worth living, whom you can trust blindly and they will be there for you no matter what. These are people I call your support group. My biggest support pre and post natal has been my husband. My parents’ presence during first two months after I delivered helped me great deal as well. These three people took away all the load from my shoulders. I was only responsible for feeding my baby. Taking care of his needs. Rest of the time I didn’t cook, clean or did any household chores.
Mom’s unconditional love flowed in form of healthiest food and dad’s support was wrapped like a protective shield and rocking the baby when I was not able to soothe him or I was too tired. Often my husband would just take baby & express milk, so that I can take a nap. Luckily, his company had a good paternity leave policy and he was able to be with me and the baby for almost a month. During that one month I don’t remember changing baby’s diaper even once. My husband’s love and support became my emotional anchor.
To top it, care I received from my parents became my physical strength. I was so cynical during first two months about the cleanliness around baby. I wanted every thing dusted and cleaned. I know there were times I was highly unreasonable but everyone around me was really understanding. They tried their best to meet my “cleanliness” standards and other irrational demands. I strongly believe if you feel good mentally, you heal better physically. In nutshell, first step of post natal recovery is having your core support group, your people around you.
I know at times you might not agree with your family’s way of handling baby or doing stuff for the baby. Just remember first 6 weeks should be all about recovery. Baby is a creature of need right now. If his or her needs are met in a prompt, gentle, loving and caring way he or she would be just fine.
So, ask your mom, dad, husband, cousin, best friends or any one else you can depend on for Help. Ask them to come and stay with you. Alrternate the feedings between formula and breastmilk or pumped milk. Try and sleep. Give diaper duty to husband or your support person. Don’t shy from asking for help because god knows you need it and you will be utterly grateful to all those who helped you for rest of your life. Isn’t life all about being there for people we love and care about.
New mommies, I know how difficult it is to accept the new realities of life post baby. Don’t rush into it. Let your mind heal, let your body heal and don’t forget to breathe…
Love and Mommyhood
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